Another semester finished! I have to say it took me getting to the end of it to really appreciate just how well it went. It’s not that I didn’t feel grateful it as it went on because I did. I really did enjoy each class and each milestone with the group. It’s that as the semester was wrapping up there were lots of little moments signifying the end. I didn’t feel we were in a mad rush for it to be over and I felt we had time to have a satisfying goodbye.
Some believe goodbye is the hardest word to say. It can be. But sometimes it can be a moment that you savor.
There was a chance I was going to have to miss our last class. But luckily, it all worked out and I was able to go. When I walked in I told the class, “It’s really important for me to be here because I wanted to say bye to all of you.” Corny? Maybe they thought so, but I meant it. I realized in that moment how important closure is to me. I’m not a fan of open endings.
Sometimes goodbyes are impossible or just don’t happen. Sometimes they can be done in an hour.
There are times when we don’t have control of how people exit our lives. It can be a relationship that ended unexpectedly, a loved one’s sudden passing or a friend that drops out of our lives with no reason given. Those are the times when we have to work it out all on our own. We somehow have to find closure or peace when we still have so many unanswered questions.
It’s never easy.
So for the times when we can control it, I think it’s important to make it a good-goodbye. Really feel the moment. Imprint it to your memory. Say what you need to say. Doing it acknowledges that the time you spent with the person was important to you and that you appreciate what that individual brought to your life. You might be making someone’s day. Or you just might be saving someone from having to do all the hard work of getting closure on his own. And any time that’s the case, I feel it’s even more important to do it, no matter how hard it may be.
Even better? It may just bring you some peace of mind too.
Thank you for the time to say goodbye.