“Everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.” ~Patrick Rothfuss
All of us have a story we tell about ourselves.
It can be funny or heartbreaking. It can be a life defining moment or something seemingly insignificant.
But all of our stories—big and small—add up to create a version of ourselves. For better or worse, these collective stories define who we are. How we define who we are is what describes our past and present and what dictates our future.
As a writer and storyteller, I only became aware of my own personal narrative and how I define my story about seven years ago. As I sat at lunch with a dear friend—sharing the story of what I thought my life was at that moment (hint, it wasn’t pretty)—she shared how she saw my story in a completely different way.
Hearing her version of my life, which was also true, but just told from a more loving, positive perspective, made me realize how easily we can lean into the negative stories and let those define us. From that point on, I became much more aware of how I speak to myself, share information about myself, and how others do too.
Since the beginning of the New Year, I’ve noticed a message coming up in the people around me. The message is that we need to ground ourselves, to tune into our intuition and hear what it has to tell us.
But the people I’ve talked to all feel the same way: they are avoiding sitting in silence. They are avoiding tuning in.
It’s not because they don’t have the time and it’s not because they don’t already know the value this will bring into their lives. The more I dug in, the more I realized the truth.
They are afraid to tune in.
They are afraid that they might hear something that will require a shift or massive change in their lives.
If they don’t tune in though, they won’t hear the truth about where they are. And they know once they hear the truth, they won’t be able to ignore it anymore.
So staying where they are feels safer and easier.
This is why I was so excited to create and dive into my new #ChooseLoveTalk guided meditation and journal writing series on this topic: “Change Your Story, Change Your World.”
The theme of the first class was changing the story we tell about ourselves to a more fulfilling, kinder one. One of my students wasn’t really sure what would come up in her meditation, but she went along with it.
First we meditated to find out what the story was. She ended up having massive insight into a story that goes back to her childhood and how it informed her relationships with men and where she was today.
Next, it was time to meditate again to shift the story to a more positive, loving one—one that can better serve our highest good.
When we had time to share later in the class, she said that when it was time to let go of the old story during the meditation, she felt panicked.
I offered the insight that of course her ego would want her to panic. This was a story she had been repeating for decades, after all. The story she was holding onto had made her feel safe for years.
But it wasn’t her truth and once she recognized that, she knew she didn’t need that story to feel safe anymore. In fact, she realized that story was limiting her from living her healthiest, happiest life.
In just the span of the two-hour class, she felt ready to change her story. She felt ready to embrace one that was more authentic and aligned with her truth, with who she is today.
This never would have happened if she hadn’t tuned into her inner guidance. Her ego would have kept her in the same story, endlessly repeating for years to come.
All of this is to say that when we feel called to ground ourselves, to tune in more, to do that inner soul searching that is part of what makes us human, we need to honor that call. We need to trust there is a reason we are being called to it.
Mantra: It is safe to tune in and trust my intuition. (Tweet that!)
When you hear that little whisper, begging for your attention, do yourself a favor.
Listen to it.
When the inner work calls your name, be willing to show up and see what it means for you. Make the time to call on your inner wisdom and honor what it tells you. If you are not sure what is coming up, be willing to explore it more.
Be willing to be the writer of your story; be willing to be an active participant in your life. (Tweet that!)
Will it change everything?
And maybe, just maybe, that’s exactly what you need.
If you are interested in joining in on this powerful series, I’d love to have you! Click here to find out more: Speaking Engagements and Events